Author Archives: John

Why Teachers Become Bullies

Last time, I talked about additive strategies and subtractive strategies, and how insecurity in social currency invites people to take “the low road” to preserving or gaining status. This time, I’m going to provide an example of how that “low … Continue reading

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Malls Model Authoritarianism

Capitalism and Social Metrics: On a recent paragliding trip to Mexico, I watched the social interactions of boys who follow pilots to help carry and pack-up equipment. In terms of an after school job, they have it better than I … Continue reading

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21 ways to New Year’s Resolution Success

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! Here are 21 tips for making New Years Resolutions easier and more successful. May they help you realize all your ambitions and dreams in 2015! Forget deadlines or acquisition of goals. They aren’t products … Continue reading

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How to Fail at New Years Resolutions

Quality failure requires proper planning. Here are five stealth methods for failing your New Year’s resolutions – because success would be lonely. Most people think a “lack of willpower” is enough to guarantee failure – and that’s one excuse, but … Continue reading

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Defuse Bullying with Resilience and Humor

We define bullying as “social sorting through despotic means”. In that way of thinking, we could liken attempts to bully as someone trying to seize the role of “casting director” for the social “play” at hand. Refusing to be cast … Continue reading

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My Special Non-dairy Mocha Recipe

Due to popular demand from clients and friends – and because I teased you in this this earlier post, here’s my favorite recipe for non-dairy mocha. I make this stuff a pitcher at a time and store in the ‘fridge in … Continue reading

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Hot Green Smoothie Recipe

Several clients and friends have asked about the contents of my breakfast drinks – my “hot green smoothies”. For a health bonus, I’m going to share my approximate recipe. I say approximate because it shifts with season and what organic … Continue reading

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Stop Group Bullying (2)

Last time, I revealed how humans have intuitive, unconscious, evolved awareness that being mean can be socially profitable. That (unconscious) awareness of this is not lost on our little darlings. And, if we want to stop group bullying we’re going … Continue reading

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Understanding Group Bullying (part one)

Why do Bullies Gang Up on Targets? Besides it being “safer” for several reasons we’ll explore in this post and the next one, when we want to understand behaviors, we pay attention to what they achieve. That’s why we define … Continue reading

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Understand Bullying: Overcoming Shame

Welcome (back?) to Understand Bullying – Overcoming Shame. Last time, I promised to reveal how you can protect your children against the most destructive dangers of shame and how to challenge shame that may exist. Shame is the most potent … Continue reading

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