Author Archives: John

Understand Bullying: The Role of Shame

Welcome (back?) to Understand Bullying – the role of Shame, which is the most potent and concerning emotion related to bullying. In the next installment I promised to reveal how Shame interacts with some of the other emotions; how it … Continue reading

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Understand Bullying: The Role of Sadness

Welcome (back?) to Understand Bullying and the role of sadness – the part that emotion plays to encourage the three actions of the bullying system: taking Advantage of power using Aggression and Accepting mistreatment At first glance, it may seem … Continue reading

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Understand Bullying: Why Some Surrender

Welcome (back?) to Understand Bullying – Why Some Surrender. Last time, I promised to disclose why some surrender to being bullied, and how that choice can lead to shame, sadness, and depression – even becoming a life-long narrative of victimization … Continue reading

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Understand Bullying: Angry Kids

Welcome (back?) to Understanding Bullying. This installment is about Angry Kids – or really about the function of anger and the role it plays in the bullying dynamic. The change you want to see is waiting – for you to … Continue reading

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Understand Bullying: the Frustration Factor

Welcome (back?) to Understand Bullying: the Frustration Factor If you’ve been following the series, you may remember how action-and-results-focused my other posts have been. Last time, I mentioned how things like reporting (statistics), judging (labeling), postering (kitschy sayings), and punishing … Continue reading

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Understand Bullying: the Fear Factor

Most of what I find written about bullying falls into four categories: Statistical reports Labels and value judgments Posters and Platitudes Punitive actions Statistical reports help us notice that bullying is universal across time and human culture, but provide no … Continue reading

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Risk Factors for Bullying (part two)

Understand Bullying: Risk Factors (part two) Last time, I shared the idea that the three A’s of bullying behavior – taking Advantage of power, using Aggression, and Accepting mistreatment – can be found more often at the upper and lower … Continue reading

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Risk Factors for Bullying

Credible studies argue about the percentage of children targeted by bullying behavior, with study numbers ranging from as low as 20% to nearly 90% – and for children engaging in bullying tactics from as low as 15% to as high … Continue reading

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When to Take Action Against Bullying

Adults feel a strong urge to protect their young. Many are aware of a need to balance that urge with the developmental needs of children. And, bullying is an especially sticky context for that balancing of protectiveness with the freedom … Continue reading

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Always Getting Bullied

Last time, I shared four reasons some kids always get bullied, including: Children with autism spectrum disorders. Children with lower social and communications skills. Children may take-on the identity or social role of “victim”. Children who develop a social symbiosis … Continue reading

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