Category Archives: How to Be Happier

Posts about happiness and how to be happier

How to Fail at New Years Resolutions

Quality failure requires proper planning. Here are five stealth methods for failing your New Year’s resolutions – because success would be lonely. Most people think a “lack of willpower” is enough to guarantee failure – and that’s one excuse, but … Continue reading

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Stop Group Bullying (2)

Last time, I revealed how humans have intuitive, unconscious, evolved awareness that being mean can be socially profitable. That (unconscious) awareness of this is not lost on our little darlings. And, if we want to stop group bullying we’re going … Continue reading

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Understanding Group Bullying (part one)

Why do Bullies Gang Up on Targets? Besides it being “safer” for several reasons we’ll explore in this post and the next one, when we want to understand behaviors, we pay attention to what they achieve. That’s why we define … Continue reading

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5 Ways to Fail Your New Year’s Resolution

It’s the end of January. Have you failed your New Year’s resolutions yet? Because quality failure requires proper planning, it’s important to know why the vast majority of New Year’s resolutions FAIL. Most people think a “lack of willpower” is … Continue reading

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Optimism and Emotional Hygieneā„¢

The last post was a demonstration of “reality-based optimism” for powering-up your New Year (and any time). As promised, this post is going to contain the blueprint – the step-by-step recipe – for building your own powerful reality-based optimism on … Continue reading

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Realistically Happy New Year 2014

There are no “negative people”, just “negative thoughts”. My second “Happy New Year” post for 2014 is just that – a short set of remarks about how it is actually a HAPPY NEW YEAR. So, I want to start the … Continue reading

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Four Questions for Your New Year

January is “busy season” for self-development coaches and “improving myself” types. There’s blogging, and suggesting resolutions, and shtick about “killing it in the New Year”. It’s time to get the pump-up going – some loud music and strobe lights like … Continue reading

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Five Steps to Fulfillment, Duck Dynasty Style

Five Steps to Fulfillment are hiding in plain sight – inside our Fascination with the Fringes. We keep hearing about the Kardashians – and about Phil Roberts, of “Duck Dynasty”. In both cases, the people involved activate tribal identity and … Continue reading

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Affirmations are Bull

I’m going to take a break today from the series on bullying to talk about something in the self-development field that bothers me: Affirmations, and the people who peddle them. Someone just sent me a link to a blog with … Continue reading

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Change Your Life With Facebook #1

This is one of a series on How to Change Your Life With Facebook using Motivational Literacy. This morning, I was scrolling the FaceBook feed, looking for some mental breakfast – some savory mental morsel to jump-start the neurons. Of … Continue reading

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