Author Archives: John

Clean Off the Guilt

Nobody is eager to do the job of cleaning a stinking mess off their shoe, but the alternative is to walk around smelling like that – and tracking it everywhere you go. And, whether you’re spending time “isolated together” with … Continue reading

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Landmarks of the Self

People construct and experience their identity – their place in the world – largely based on their interactions with others. Disruption of one’s social interactions can lead people to lose sight of the landmarks they have chosen to navigate their … Continue reading

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Motivational Minute: Utilization Principle

This is March 20, 2020, and stress over the COVID-19 virus is beginning to crescendo for many people. They’re trying to concentrate, to do work from home or create something – or to home-school their kids – and the constant … Continue reading

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Why Teachers Become Bullies

Last time, I talked about additive strategies and subtractive strategies, and how insecurity in social currency invites people to take “the low road” to preserving or gaining status. This time, I’m going to provide an example of how that “low … Continue reading

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Malls Model Authoritarianism

Capitalism and Social Metrics: On a recent paragliding trip to Mexico, I watched the social interactions of boys who follow pilots to help carry and pack-up equipment. In terms of an after school job, they have it better than I … Continue reading

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21 ways to New Year’s Resolution Success

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! Here are 21 tips for making New Years Resolutions easier and more successful. May they help you realize all your ambitions and dreams in 2015! Forget deadlines or acquisition of goals. They aren’t products … Continue reading

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How to Fail at New Years Resolutions

Quality failure requires proper planning. Here are five stealth methods for failing your New Year’s resolutions – because success would be lonely. Most people think a “lack of willpower” is enough to guarantee failure – and that’s one excuse, but … Continue reading

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Defuse Bullying with Resilience and Humor

We define bullying as “social sorting through despotic means”. In that way of thinking, we could liken attempts to bully as someone trying to seize the role of “casting director” for the social “play” at hand. Refusing to be cast … Continue reading

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My Special Non-dairy Mocha Recipe

Due to popular demand from clients and friends – and because I teased you in this this earlier post, here’s my favorite recipe for non-dairy mocha. I make this stuff a pitcher at a time and store in the ‘fridge in … Continue reading

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Hot Green Smoothie Recipe

Several clients and friends have asked about the contents of my breakfast drinks – my “hot green smoothies”. For a health bonus, I’m going to share my approximate recipe. I say approximate because it shifts with season and what organic … Continue reading

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