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Stop Group Bullying (2)

Last time, I revealed how humans have intuitive, unconscious, evolved awareness that being mean can be socially profitable. That (unconscious) awareness of this is not lost on our little darlings. And, if we want to stop group bullying we’re going … Continue reading

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Understanding Group Bullying (part one)

Why do Bullies Gang Up on Targets? Besides it being “safer” for several reasons we’ll explore in this post and the next one, when we want to understand behaviors, we pay attention to what they achieve. That’s why we define … Continue reading

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Understand Bullying: Overcoming Shame

Welcome (back?) to Understand Bullying – Overcoming Shame. Last time, I promised to reveal how you can protect your children against the most destructive dangers of shame and how to challenge shame that may exist. Shame is the most potent … Continue reading

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Understand Bullying: The Role of Shame

Welcome (back?) to Understand Bullying – the role of Shame, which is the most potent and concerning emotion related to bullying. In the next installment I promised to reveal how Shame interacts with some of the other emotions; how it … Continue reading

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Understand Bullying: The Role of Sadness

Welcome (back?) to Understand Bullying and the role of sadness – the part that emotion plays to encourage the three actions of the bullying system: taking Advantage of power using Aggression and Accepting mistreatment At first glance, it may seem … Continue reading

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Understand Bullying: Why Some Surrender

Welcome (back?) to Understand Bullying – Why Some Surrender. Last time, I promised to disclose why some surrender to being bullied, and how that choice can lead to shame, sadness, and depression – even becoming a life-long narrative of victimization … Continue reading

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Understand Bullying: Angry Kids

Welcome (back?) to Understanding Bullying. This installment is about Angry Kids – or really about the function of anger and the role it plays in the bullying dynamic. The change you want to see is waiting – for you to … Continue reading

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Understand Bullying: the Frustration Factor

Welcome (back?) to Understand Bullying: the Frustration Factor If you’ve been following the series, you may remember how action-and-results-focused my other posts have been. Last time, I mentioned how things like reporting (statistics), judging (labeling), postering (kitschy sayings), and punishing … Continue reading

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Understand Bullying: the Fear Factor

Most of what I find written about bullying falls into four categories: Statistical reports Labels and value judgments Posters and Platitudes Punitive actions Statistical reports help us notice that bullying is universal across time and human culture, but provide no … Continue reading

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Risk Factors for Bullying (part two)

Understand Bullying: Risk Factors (part two) Last time, I shared the idea that the three A’s of bullying behavior – taking Advantage of power, using Aggression, and Accepting mistreatment – can be found more often at the upper and lower … Continue reading

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