Category Archives: Coping with Sadness

Masks of Fear 5: Tribal Masks

“Tribalism is a product of fear, and fear is the dominant emotion of any person, culture or society that rejects man’s power of survival: reason.” – Ayn Rand Tribalism is the state of being organized by, or advocating for, tribes. … Continue reading

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Masks of Fear 3: Implausible Denial

When faced with shocking or emotionally painful information, one of the most common reflexive responses is “no” – or “you’re kidding me”. It’s a way of stepping back from the initial impact. This response (called “denial”) is the first of … Continue reading

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Masks of Fear 1: Suffocating Panic

If wearing a mask makes you feel short of breath or light-headed, it’s NOT because it’s “reducing your oxygen” or because it’s “trapping the CO2”. (Masks don’t actually do those things.) The symptoms are most probably due to a panic … Continue reading

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Victim Status – according to Brodsky

I write a good bit about victim status, seeking it, the utility of it – and the price. I just came across this fragment of a commencement speech by Joseph Brodsky, from 1988, where he speaks eloquently and directly about … Continue reading

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Landmarks of the Self

People construct and experience their identity – their place in the world – largely based on their interactions with others. Disruption of one’s social interactions can lead people to lose sight of the landmarks they have chosen to navigate their … Continue reading

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Understand Bullying: The Role of Sadness

Welcome (back?) to Understand Bullying and the role of sadness – the part that emotion plays to encourage the three actions of the bullying system: taking Advantage of power using Aggression and Accepting mistreatment At first glance, it may seem … Continue reading

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Optimism and Emotional Hygiene™

The last post was a demonstration of “reality-based optimism” for powering-up your New Year (and any time). As promised, this post is going to contain the blueprint – the step-by-step recipe – for building your own powerful reality-based optimism on … Continue reading

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