Category Archives: Self Esteem

How to Fail at New Years Resolutions

Quality failure requires proper planning. Here are five stealth methods for failing your New Year’s resolutions – because success would be lonely. Most people think a “lack of willpower” is enough to guarantee failure – and that’s one excuse, but … Continue reading

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Stop Group Bullying (2)

Last time, I revealed how humans have intuitive, unconscious, evolved awareness that being mean can be socially profitable. That (unconscious) awareness of this is not lost on our little darlings. And, if we want to stop group bullying we’re going … Continue reading

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Understand Bullying: The Role of Shame

Welcome (back?) to Understand Bullying – the role of Shame, which is the most potent and concerning emotion related to bullying. In the next installment I promised to reveal how Shame interacts with some of the other emotions; how it … Continue reading

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Understand Bullying: The Role of Sadness

Welcome (back?) to Understand Bullying and the role of sadness – the part that emotion plays to encourage the three actions of the bullying system: taking Advantage of power using Aggression and Accepting mistreatment At first glance, it may seem … Continue reading

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5 Ways to Fail Your New Year’s Resolution

It’s the end of January. Have you failed your New Year’s resolutions yet? Because quality failure requires proper planning, it’s important to know why the vast majority of New Year’s resolutions FAIL. Most people think a “lack of willpower” is … Continue reading

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Four Questions for Your New Year

January is “busy season” for self-development coaches and “improving myself” types. There’s blogging, and suggesting resolutions, and shtick about “killing it in the New Year”. It’s time to get the pump-up going – some loud music and strobe lights like … Continue reading

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Five Steps to Fulfillment, Duck Dynasty Style

Five Steps to Fulfillment are hiding in plain sight – inside our Fascination with the Fringes. We keep hearing about the Kardashians – and about Phil Roberts, of “Duck Dynasty”. In both cases, the people involved activate tribal identity and … Continue reading

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Building Self Esteem with Motivational Literacy

All self esteem comes from the experience of achievement. This is why we can never “give” self-esteem to someone else. It must come from the SELF, and it must be credible based on achievement. Every achievement is the overcoming of … Continue reading

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The Importance of Self Esteem

In conversations about bullying, we often hear the term “self esteem”. Some people think it’s the bully who would behave differently if only they “had more self esteem”. Others think the target of bullying wouldn’t be targeted if only they … Continue reading

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Affirmations are Bull

I’m going to take a break today from the series on bullying to talk about something in the self-development field that bothers me: Affirmations, and the people who peddle them. Someone just sent me a link to a blog with … Continue reading

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